Disaster

August 26th 2009 08:29 am

This is only going to be a short note but I just wanted to announce that our baby girl born almost 5 months ago passed away yesterday, Aug 25.

There aren’t really words to describe how gut wrenching this experience is, I’ll surely be away from KDE and other activities for a bit as my family tries to cope and go through the grieving process. :-(

Posted by mpyne under Personal | 125 Comments »

125 Responses to “Disaster”

  1. Eike Hein Identicon Icon Eike Hein responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 08:42 #

    I’m so sorry, Michael. Beyond words :(.

  2. Ashwin Identicon Icon Ashwin responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 08:51 #

    I’m really sorry for you man. My condolences to you and your family.

  3. Jucato Identicon Icon Jucato responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 08:52 #

    My deepest condolences as well. :(

  4. Ariya Identicon Icon Ariya responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 08:54 #

    I am sorry to hear that, my condolences to your family!

  5. Francesco R. Identicon Icon Francesco R. responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:00 #

    Sorry for you and your family as only a father can be, no words can explain

  6. Med Identicon Icon Med responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:03 #

    I cannot tell you how sorry i am Michael. You have all my support. :’(

  7. Boudewijn Identicon Icon Boudewijn responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:05 #

    No words either — my condolences.

  8. Joshua Kersey Identicon Icon Joshua Kersey responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:06 #

    My sincerest apologies for your loss.

  9. Think-Free Identicon Icon Think-Free responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:07 #

    My condolences as well

  10. Seb Ruiz Identicon Icon Seb Ruiz responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:08 #

    Terribly sorry to hear about this Michael. Condolences and support from all of the KDE community.

  11. Kaismh Identicon Icon Kaismh responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:10 #

    My deepest condolences.

  12. Mike Arthur Identicon Icon Mike Arthur responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:11 #

    I’m so sorry Michael, my prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.

  13. notmart Identicon Icon notmart responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:13 #

    Can’t find anything to say besides my sincere condolences :(

  14. Matthias Kretz Identicon Icon Matthias Kretz responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:13 #

    My sincere condolences.

  15. Hans Identicon Icon Hans responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:15 #

    I can’t find any words – my deepest condolences to you to you and your family.

  16. Parker Coates Identicon Icon Parker Coates responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:15 #

    I can’t even imagine what you must be going through. You have my condolences.

  17. Dion Moult Identicon Icon Dion Moult responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:16 #

    I’d like to offer my condolences as well.

  18. Emil Sedgh Identicon Icon Emil Sedgh responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:18 #

    my condolences, nothing to say :(

  19. Bart Identicon Icon Bart responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:19 #

    My sincere condolences… :(

  20. chrislaz Identicon Icon chrislaz responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:20 #

    Sorry to hear that… my condolences as well

  21. Frederic Meurou Identicon Icon Frederic Meurou responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:20 #

    It’s very sad, my deepest condolences to you and your family.

  22. Fabio Zottele Identicon Icon Fabio Zottele responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:20 #

    My prayers are with you.

  23. Girish Ramakrishnan Identicon Icon Girish Ramakrishnan responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:22 #

    Very sorry to hear that :( My condolences.

  24. Marcus D. Hanwell Identicon Icon Marcus D. Hanwell responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:25 #

    So sorry to hear that, having lost siblings and being a new father myself, I know there are no words. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  25. Javi Identicon Icon Javi responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:25 #

    My condolences to you and your family :-(

  26. Andreas Identicon Icon Andreas responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:27 #

    I’d like to offer my condolences as well.

  27. Juan Manuel Márquez (aka Poldark) Identicon Icon Juan Manuel Márquez (aka Poldark) responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:30 #

    I’m so sorry… my deepest condolences :(

  28. John Tait Identicon Icon John Tait responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:31 #

    As a father, I cannot imagine the pain you and your family are feeling. You are in my prayers tonight.

  29. Frank Karlitschek Identicon Icon Frank Karlitschek responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:32 #

    I´m very sorry to here that.
    My condolences to you!!

  30. liquidat Identicon Icon liquidat responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:32 #

    There are no words to say but my deepest condolences.

  31. bluescarni Identicon Icon bluescarni responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:34 #

    I’m very sorry :(

  32. sxe Identicon Icon sxe responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:34 #

    Thats so sad.. :(
    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  33. smalcom Identicon Icon smalcom responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:35 #

    i’m so sorry. my condolences to you

  34. fyanardi Identicon Icon fyanardi responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:41 #

    I’m very sorry to hear that, my deepest condolences to you and your family.

  35. Alexandra Identicon Icon Alexandra responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:42 #

    I am very sorry for you and your family… way beyond words.

  36. Alex Medina Identicon Icon Alex Medina responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:45 #

    That’s very sad :/ My condolences…

  37. David Mills Identicon Icon David Mills responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:52 #

    my condolences, this happened in my familly 2 monthes ago so I know how horrible it is.

    We’re all with you

  38. Johan Thelin Identicon Icon Johan Thelin responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:56 #

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  39. az Identicon Icon az responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 09:56 #

    My condolences.

  40. Lydia Identicon Icon Lydia responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:17 #

    I’m so sorry to hear this, Michael. My condolences.
    If there is anything we can help you with: we are here for you.

  41. suy Identicon Icon suy responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:21 #

    I’m very sorry Michael. We don’t know each other, but I’m a KDE enthusiast that follows your work on JuK and kdesvn-build, etc., and I’m very sorry to read this. Our condolences.

  42. Daniel Molkentin Identicon Icon Daniel Molkentin responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:22 #

    I am so sorry for your loss Michael. Nobody should have to go through this. My deepest condolences.

  43. Irina Identicon Icon Irina responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:29 #

    I’m so sorry. My condolences.

  44. Manuel Identicon Icon Manuel responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:29 #

    My deepest condolences. There are no words to find.

  45. Kishore Identicon Icon Kishore responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:33 #

    I am very sorry to hear that Michael. My deepest condolences to you and your family. :(

  46. bbroeksema Identicon Icon bbroeksema responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:44 #

    Life can be so cruel. My sincerest condolences..

  47. Seeker Identicon Icon Seeker responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:48 #

    Lucky she will go to a better place now which is called heaven.

  48. Jack Identicon Icon Jack responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 10:49 #

    There’s a song – unfortunately not on english – which title translates to “Thief thief”:
    ———————————–
    ask no-one – not anyone
    whistles in the steel – the scythe
    rip open the sky
    no-one’s safe in the field

    cuts the harvest without rest
    without rest: blind & mute
    soon there – then here – as lightning
    steals beloved child

    thief thief

    no penalty sufficient
    hearts worn to pieces
    pardon saves no one
    harvests anyone and everyone

    thief thief

    we are all equals
    for the scythe
    if it had a soul it was someone’s beloved one
    robs who shines most

    thief thief

    thief thief
    stole the beloved child
    sneaks in the shadows
    only we are left

    thief thief
    took what he found
    everything we had hidden
    will never be forgotten

    —————–

    The story behind the song is that the lead singer of the band lost his young daughter to meningitis. The guitarplayer/composer of the band then wrote this song to his friend. They recorded it, and also have played it during live performances. Nobody familiar with the background for the song leaves untouched.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MNalRDlPekg

    My sincere condolences to you and your family.

  49. Marco Martin Identicon Icon Marco Martin responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:20 #

    i’m speechless, my condolences Michael :(

  50. Chani Identicon Icon Chani responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:25 #

    :(
    *hugs*

  51. Thorben Identicon Icon Thorben responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:33 #

    My condolences as well…

  52. Patrice Tremblay Identicon Icon Patrice Tremblay responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:36 #

    My sincerest condolences…

  53. Guido Identicon Icon Guido responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:41 #

    Shocked to read your message. My condolences.

  54. Ian Geiser Identicon Icon Ian Geiser responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:47 #

    I am so sorry mpyne… For what its worth, I’ll hold you in my prayers.

  55. Nadeem Hasan Identicon Icon Nadeem Hasan responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 11:55 #

    Michael,

    I am very sorry for the terrible loss. I am sure Emma found the love of a lifetime from you and your family in these short few months.

  56. Sebastian Sauer Identicon Icon Sebastian Sauer responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 12:01 #

    :-(

  57. Mamarok Identicon Icon Mamarok responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 12:07 #

    So sorry to hear about your loss, Michael, my sincere condolences to you and your family.

  58. Gaël Identicon Icon Gaël responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 12:29 #

    I’m so sorry, too. My condolences to all your family.

  59. lxer Identicon Icon lxer responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 12:42 #

    I feel very sorry for your family.
    Please accept my condolences as well.

  60. annma Identicon Icon annma responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:07 #

    Please accept my sincere condolences and prayers.

  61. tom Identicon Icon tom responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:13 #

    so sad :-(

  62. Eduardo Identicon Icon Eduardo responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:13 #

    Michael, my sincere condolences and prayers.

  63. jospoortvliet Identicon Icon jospoortvliet responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:18 #

    Michael, condolences and the very best to you and your family…

  64. ungethym Identicon Icon ungethym responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:38 #

    I’m so sorry for you. My deepest condolences to you and your family :-(

  65. Nicolas Identicon Icon Nicolas responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:40 #

    I am really sorry for you as a father I cannot imagine it. My condolences.

  66. sebastian Identicon Icon sebastian responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:53 #

    My sincere condolences to you and your family.

  67. Boerny Identicon Icon Boerny responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 13:59 #

    I am so sorry for you. My deepest condolences to you and your familiy as well.

  68. Klaus Identicon Icon Klaus responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:26 #

    I’m not a member of the KDE community but I follow planet.kde and I just read this post… my condolences to you and your family, from a father of two.

  69. Andrew Lake Identicon Icon Andrew Lake responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:29 #

    So sorry… sad day… please take care.

  70. Jo Identicon Icon Jo responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:32 #

    Very sorry for you and all involved. My condolences.

  71. Richard Moore Identicon Icon Richard Moore responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:36 #

    I’m so sorry to hear this, my deepest condolences.

  72. Shawn Starr Identicon Icon Shawn Starr responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:39 #

    I sent my prayers and condolences. I am deeply shocked :-(

  73. Bugsbane Identicon Icon Bugsbane responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 14:53 #

    *hugs*

    My heart is with you all.

  74. Karthikeyan Identicon Icon Karthikeyan responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 15:25 #

    I wish she rests in peace in the arms of God… my deepest condolences

  75. Paul Identicon Icon Paul responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 15:33 #

    She was such a beautiful little thing, just a little older than my son.
    Such things are the ultimate of sadness, I can’t imagine how you feel.
    Treasure the time she spent with you.

  76. fabo Identicon Icon fabo responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 16:22 #

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. :(

  77. Thomas Zander Identicon Icon Thomas Zander responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 16:23 #

    Shocking to read this, Michael. I send strength your way, we all share your sadness in the sincere hope it makes yours just a little more bearable.
    You’ll get through this, one day at a time. *hugs*

  78. Andy Crouch Identicon Icon Andy Crouch responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 16:36 #

    I can only imagine how you and your family must be doing, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Stay strong.

  79. FiNeX Identicon Icon FiNeX responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 17:24 #

    I’m with you, condolences.
    I’ve no more words.

  80. Lindsay Identicon Icon Lindsay responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 17:29 #

    Dear God, I am so sorry Michael, my sincere condolences.

  81. blauzahl Identicon Icon blauzahl responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 17:37 #

    *shock*

    :(

    Is there a Memorial fund somewhere?

  82. Arjen Hiemstra Identicon Icon Arjen Hiemstra responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 17:45 #

    Damn, that’s awful. I’m really sorry for you and your family and wish you all the best for the coming time.

  83. star_catcher Identicon Icon star_catcher responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 17:47 #

    There may be nothing so painful as losing a loved one for whom you had so few memories, yet so many hopes.
    I’m truly sorry. I hope your family can band together and weather this greatest tragedy.
    My deepest and strongest condolences to you all.

  84. Wade Olson Identicon Icon Wade Olson responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 18:03 #

    That’s the last type of blog entry I expected to read. You and your family are definitely in my thoughts. Take care Michael. I’m just stunned. The KDE community is definitely here for you.

  85. Aaron Seigo Identicon Icon Aaron Seigo responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 18:29 #

    I’m so very sorry to hear that, Michael. I trust and hope that you will find the support and time you need to get through this hard time, and look forward to seeing you around again on the other side of it all. Till then, my greatest condolences and take care …

  86. Mauricio Identicon Icon Mauricio responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 18:50 #

    I am shocked to read your message. My sincere condolences. Be strong.

  87. Socceroos Identicon Icon Socceroos responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 18:52 #

    Wow. =(

    Please accept my sincerest condolences, from me and my wife. We’re very upset at this news. You and your family will be in our prayers.

    Take care mate.

  88. Cl@ire Identicon Icon Cl@ire responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 19:20 #

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. Please know that my heart and thoughts are with you.

  89. mpyne Identicon Icon mpyne responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 19:29 #

    I just want to say thanks for all of the expressions of support, I really do appreciate the kind words. The support our family has received over the past couple of days, from my family and friends across the world is deeply appreciated.

    The only word we have on the cause of death, even after the autopsy, is that they think it was due to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Which is to say, they’re not sure at all. She was alive and breathing as late as 0530-0600 that morning, but was dead by 0930, and apparently died in her sleep.

    We plan on having a memorial service on Saturday with local friends/family in the Georgia area, and Emma’s remains will be cremated. We still haven’t decided if we are going to have a memorial fund or not.

    I just can’t get over how sudden and unexpected this is. She had low weight and sput up a lot but other than that was in great health. She had given us so much joy over the nearly 5 months she was alive, and then she was taken from all of us, leaving instead a void, a nothing where there used to be a promise, of a future to experience…

  90. sulfide Identicon Icon sulfide responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 20:35 #

    …holy crap. I don’t even know what to say. Having two girls that I deeply love, I cannot imagine how this would feel. I just started learning Qt and KDE/plasma etc, so this is one of my first times through these blogs on the planet…and I’m not sure what I could personally do to help, but if there is going to be a memorial fund please let us know where a donation could be made out to.

  91. Lisandro Damián Nicanor Pérez Meyer Identicon Icon Lisandro Damián Nicanor Pérez Meyer responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 20:53 #

    My prayers will go for you and your family

  92. Venky80 Identicon Icon Venky80 responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 20:55 #

    I am really sorry for your loss, this is really awful :(

  93. Sunil Identicon Icon Sunil responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 21:00 #

    sorry to hear, my deepest condolences for you and your family.

  94. Askrates Identicon Icon Askrates responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 21:18 #

    Please accept my deepest condolences. My thoughts go with you and your family.

  95. biquillo Identicon Icon biquillo responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 22:01 #

    My deepest condolences :(

  96. Jason 'vanRijn' Kasper Identicon Icon Jason 'vanRijn' Kasper responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 22:06 #

    Oh Michael, I am so sorry. I will pray for you and your family. =:((

  97. Edney Matias Identicon Icon Edney Matias responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 23:08 #

    Michale, i’m really sorry and sad for your loss. My deepest condolences.

  98. Gary Greene Identicon Icon Gary Greene responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 23:14 #

    In this time of loss, I offer my condolences and prayers that God’s angels will comfort and hold you and your family in this hour of need. While I’ve never had a loss like this in my life, it grieves me to hear of this news. Take as much time as you need, we’ll all be there for you if you need us.

  99. nixternal Identicon Icon nixternal responded on 26 Aug 2009 at 23:52 #

    Oh no Michael, I am so sorry to hear this. Celeste just poked me on IRC and somehow I missed this post on the planet. This is so sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Know that the KDE community is here for you shipmate!

  100. Ernest N. Wilcox Jr. Identicon Icon Ernest N. Wilcox Jr. responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 00:33 #

    My heart breaks for you . . .

  101. Aurélien Gâteau Identicon Icon Aurélien Gâteau responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 02:30 #

    Even as a father I can barely imagine how devastating this must be. My heart is with you and your family. Deepest condolences.

  102. Vide Identicon Icon Vide responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 03:04 #

    :(
    I know it’s useless but… my condolences :(

  103. S. Identicon Icon S. responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 03:30 #

    Oh my, this is horrible. My heart goes out to you, Michael. :(

  104. Quintesse Identicon Icon Quintesse responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 03:56 #

    Oh my god, this is awful news! I’m so terribly sorry. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. :(

  105. Jean Identicon Icon Jean responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 04:04 #

    Sincerest condolences. I went thru the same experience 22 years ago (almost to the day). I wish you and your wife to be soon comforted by the smile of a little brother or sister of your sweet angel…. a tear shines on my keyboard… a new star shines somewhere…

  106. Andras Identicon Icon Andras responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 04:46 #

    My sincere condolences. I’m shocked to read it.

  107. jramskov Identicon Icon jramskov responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 05:34 #

    My sincere condolences – can’t imagine the pain you and your family is going through right now :(

  108. STiAT Identicon Icon STiAT responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 06:35 #

    My sincere condolences Michael, can’t even imagine how hard this is for you and your family.

  109. John Layt Identicon Icon John Layt responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 07:36 #

    Michael, that’s really sad news, my heart goes out to you and your family. I know it’s going to be a trying time for you, I’ve close friends who have been there, just hold onto those memories of the joy she brought into your lives.

  110. JohnFlux Identicon Icon JohnFlux responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 08:33 #

    Oh man that sucks. I’m so sorry for you.

  111. Kåre Särs Identicon Icon Kåre Särs responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 10:57 #

    I know the pain I had and still have, after my brothers 10 months old boy passed away. I’m so sorry for you. My condolences to you and your family.

  112. Sean Goehner Identicon Icon Sean Goehner responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 12:27 #

    My prayers are with you and your family.

  113. Chris Howells Identicon Icon Chris Howells responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 14:16 #

    I’m so sorry to hear of your disaster. The very best of wishes for you and your family.

  114. leo franchi Identicon Icon leo franchi responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 15:05 #

    i’m so sorry. best wishes to you and your family through these hard times.

  115. Mauricio Piacentini Identicon Icon Mauricio Piacentini responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 17:35 #

    Not much to say…
    As you know KDE is not just our software, it is above all a community of people that support each other. I am glad that you could find the strength to post during this hard time, so we could at least direct our hearts and minds to help you and your family go through this, in silence.

  116. STiAT Identicon Icon STiAT responded on 27 Aug 2009 at 18:10 #

    I wrote just some posts above, and still can’t stop thinking about it. My heart, soul, and mind is with you and your family, Michael.
    I really wish you and your family all strength on earth to handle this barrier.

    Georg

  117. Jorge Identicon Icon Jorge responded on 28 Aug 2009 at 03:27 #

    I’m very sorry. I hope that in this difficult times, all your friends and family can give you light and the strength to carry on. Best wishes. My condolences to you and your family.

  118. Stephanie Identicon Icon Stephanie responded on 28 Aug 2009 at 15:17 #

    Micheal,

    I’m so very sorry to hear about this. My husband and I were very shocked, saddened, and upset by this news. We send our condolences.

  119. dkite Identicon Icon dkite responded on 28 Aug 2009 at 19:32 #

    I’m so sorry. The ache in your and your wife’s heart must be unbearable.

    Derek

  120. Tindor Identicon Icon Tindor responded on 29 Aug 2009 at 18:02 #

    I’m terribly sorry! Please accept my condolences

  121. sandsmark Identicon Icon sandsmark responded on 29 Aug 2009 at 20:42 #

    My deepest condolences.
    I pray for your family and your daughter.
    Take care.

  122. Gnuton Identicon Icon Gnuton responded on 01 Sep 2009 at 01:57 #

    My condolences to your family.
    I’ll pray for you daughter and you all..

  123. Chris Samuel Identicon Icon Chris Samuel responded on 02 Sep 2009 at 07:51 #

    Very very sorry to hear about your loss, take good care of yourselves please.. :-(

  124. VinLos Identicon Icon VinLos responded on 02 Sep 2009 at 14:35 #

    Hi Michael,

    there are no words in these situation. I’m really sorry for your loss. I don’t know you, but it’s like we are part of an unique family.

    So my deepest condolences to you and your family. I’m sure that your little angel is in a better place now.

  125. Moritz Moeller-Herrmann Identicon Icon Moritz Moeller-Herrmann responded on 02 Sep 2009 at 14:37 #

    My heart-felt condolences. The same thing happened to my sister in law – based on that experience, accept all support you are getting – You are doing the right thing: Stay with family and friends and talk about your feelings. Things like this happen – we can never understand why and noone is to blame.

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